I don't find it strange of me, though you may, why I don't mind my man speaking to other females. Not all females of course in any such regard, but those in whom I trust and like. My main reasoning behind this is that I like guy friends. I've been in the type of relationship before where I, as the female, was not allowed to speak with guy friends but the males point of view was always; I can do whatever I want because I know better and I won't mess up. For a committed and monogamous relationship trust is the key component. Ideally it would be a more pleasant world if no one was attracted sexually to anyone other than their mate, but the world is not ideal. In general I prefer my man to communicate and speak with women who are of equal attraction to me. Perhaps on a surreal level it's because their cute and bubbly personalities mimic mine and vice-versa so he won't be tempted to cheat, but that is too dream like. I have my reasons outside of the overall reasoning of trust why so. And I'd like to add it does not work for all equal to me women this way. I am speaking of females you know and love. Just as much as I don't like giving up guy friends for a male, I also do not like giving up female friends who make your life brighter.
To make it simple there are those that simply want to conquer your mate, those who want to win your mate for a lifetime over, and those who have their own love deep emotional love thing going on. It is studied that the more attractive a person is the deeper they fall in love. I always use Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie as an example; but Jennifer Aniston is a good catch all her own so I like not to compare. Though the world saw how deep Brad feel for his wife; and most felt the cause to be her beauty.
Everyone has to watch out for those male or females in life who want to one up you by stealing your significant other – basically only for such cause. I guess a reasoning behind this would be because it would make them feel better than you. Those types of people should be off limits and seculde themselves to like people. Than there are cases where a better looking male or female are being trapped and blocked in different aspects of life; perhaps professional personal growth or simply by trying to be the last man left. Those types of people are more than welcomed to dance with you in life but you always have to be a step ahead and keep an eye on such -- well for people persons anyone. Others may easily cut those types of people out of their lives. And then, when you think you can't trust anyone in the world there are those who would actually go out of their way to keep your counterpart faithful to you. Those are the type of people I like to surround myself with and I hope most do too.
So since it may seem strange that I encourage good-looking women to mingle, in a non-sexual way, with my man, I do hold logic behind it. (not at all any good-looking person, just ones you love and want in your life! I'd like to differentiate the difference but it's self-explanatory through this sharing of thoughts) I find woman to be smart, cute, funny, pretty, beautiful ect. All the attributes in the world I myself posses and I don't mind if he thinks so too. Though, with being in a deep relationship comes easy hurt and jealousy. If good-looking people with killer personalities are always around and you become angry with you're partner will they be likely to leave and cheat. Well, the good news is you too are surrounded with the opposite sex with whom your partner can trust, and the situation can work tit for tat. An honest, speaking out of feelings is all it takes to sort through ones feelings. If a nice, calm break-up happens then perhaps you let the wrong person in your immediate circle and one was talked into leaving you for the self gain of the one who just wants a point on their score card. Basically I believe you should love the one your wife and check your heart taken box for life. And I feel others should respect such promise your soul has made.
Moral of all of this is; if you're asked not to speak to certain people by your significant other than perhaps you shouldn't. However, a conversation may clear things up. For example; hey babe their into someone else and their sun doesn't circle around you so please let's just chill and then perhaps you'd have to explain why this certain someone else you yourself are not into and chances are they themselves aren't into you either. So what's the hurt in it?
Disclaimer: Men, please don't think I'm advising to speak to only the hottest people (cause I'm not and that will hurt and back fire.) If they want a relationship with you and to be with you and then can tempt you sexually: STAY AWAY! If you think you can't be tempted sexually and want to prove so: STAY AWAY!! <3
To make it simple there are those that simply want to conquer your mate, those who want to win your mate for a lifetime over, and those who have their own love deep emotional love thing going on. It is studied that the more attractive a person is the deeper they fall in love. I always use Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie as an example; but Jennifer Aniston is a good catch all her own so I like not to compare. Though the world saw how deep Brad feel for his wife; and most felt the cause to be her beauty.
Everyone has to watch out for those male or females in life who want to one up you by stealing your significant other – basically only for such cause. I guess a reasoning behind this would be because it would make them feel better than you. Those types of people should be off limits and seculde themselves to like people. Than there are cases where a better looking male or female are being trapped and blocked in different aspects of life; perhaps professional personal growth or simply by trying to be the last man left. Those types of people are more than welcomed to dance with you in life but you always have to be a step ahead and keep an eye on such -- well for people persons anyone. Others may easily cut those types of people out of their lives. And then, when you think you can't trust anyone in the world there are those who would actually go out of their way to keep your counterpart faithful to you. Those are the type of people I like to surround myself with and I hope most do too.
So since it may seem strange that I encourage good-looking women to mingle, in a non-sexual way, with my man, I do hold logic behind it. (not at all any good-looking person, just ones you love and want in your life! I'd like to differentiate the difference but it's self-explanatory through this sharing of thoughts) I find woman to be smart, cute, funny, pretty, beautiful ect. All the attributes in the world I myself posses and I don't mind if he thinks so too. Though, with being in a deep relationship comes easy hurt and jealousy. If good-looking people with killer personalities are always around and you become angry with you're partner will they be likely to leave and cheat. Well, the good news is you too are surrounded with the opposite sex with whom your partner can trust, and the situation can work tit for tat. An honest, speaking out of feelings is all it takes to sort through ones feelings. If a nice, calm break-up happens then perhaps you let the wrong person in your immediate circle and one was talked into leaving you for the self gain of the one who just wants a point on their score card. Basically I believe you should love the one your wife and check your heart taken box for life. And I feel others should respect such promise your soul has made.
Moral of all of this is; if you're asked not to speak to certain people by your significant other than perhaps you shouldn't. However, a conversation may clear things up. For example; hey babe their into someone else and their sun doesn't circle around you so please let's just chill and then perhaps you'd have to explain why this certain someone else you yourself are not into and chances are they themselves aren't into you either. So what's the hurt in it?
Disclaimer: Men, please don't think I'm advising to speak to only the hottest people (cause I'm not and that will hurt and back fire.) If they want a relationship with you and to be with you and then can tempt you sexually: STAY AWAY! If you think you can't be tempted sexually and want to prove so: STAY AWAY!! <3